Has this ever happened to you in a coaching session or health history? Or do you worry about this happening...
Your client shares something or answers a question and you:
- Give your opinion, "I think that..."
- Explain what they are experiencing. "This is very common, here's what's happening..."
- Share your own personal example. "OMG me too, I do this all the time..."
- Or just ramble and try to fill the space?
As a new coach 10 years ago, I developed a bad habit of trying to relate and sympathize with the client by normalizing the situation and share my knowledge on the topic.
And I did this because this is how I would normally talk to a friend or family member who was struggling.
But this isn't coaching.
I always felt a little icky about it afterward. Like I was trying to be their friend not their coach. Did I really help at all?
If any of this resonates with you, then today's mini-training is for you.
We're going to talk about active listening skills. The tools and techniques that actually work to support our clients and help move them forward toward their goals.
I'll share some examples and explain how to:
- Paraphrase & restate
- Reflect feelings
With these tools in your pocket you'll know what to say and when to say it and you'll feel more confident and effective at coaching your clients.
Check it out...
What questions do you have about these active listening skills? I'd be happy to answer them in the comments or feel free to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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