Change is hard and support helps

Blog Post - Change is hard - Michelle MacLean _ Health and Wellness Coach _ Halifax Health CoachWhen trying to make a health, wellness or lifestyle change it’s crucial to your success to consider your sources of support and connectedness.

Our modern lifestyles can be very isolating. We’re busy, overwhelmed, tired and stressed. This can lead to spending a lot of time alone and a loss of connection with friends, family, communities, nature, spirituality and your self.

In fact, isolation has actually become a known health risk. Research shows people who are better connected to their community, to nature, to their work, have a connection to something greater, and who have good self connection, appear healthier than those who are isolated.

If you’re about to embark on a heath, wellness, or lifestyle change such as new way of eating, a new movement program, quitting smoking, sugar or gluten, or just generally looking to be healthier – you need to look at these areas to ensure you have the support to help you reach your goals.

Taking on any of these changes will be a lot easier and more enjoyable when the people you love and surround yourself with support your journey.

Consider these scenarios. You decide to:

• Start a new fitness program and your partner sits home every night watching TV

• Give up sugar and your mom keeps baking you cookies and sweets

• Adopt a healthier lifestyle and your friends party and drink every weekend

• Bring healthy home-cooked lunches to work and your co-workers get take-out everyday

In any one of these scenarios, your chances of success are low. You’re discouraged, unsure, frustrated and unsupported. All of your connections are reinforcing an unhealthy life while you are trying to make positive, lasting change.

Even though though have your own free will to make choices, the bottom line is these external influences have an impact. And sometimes it is the people closet to us that have the hardest time with lifestyle changes. When we change it impact their lives and makes them uncomfortable.

Clearly you can’t leave your partner, disown your mom, dump your friends or quit your job. What you can do is ask yourself a few question before you jump into any big lifestyle change to ensure some sources of support are in place.

Ask yourself:

• Who can go on this healthy journey with me?

• Who inspires me that I can possibly reach out to?

• Is there someone in my life I know will not be supportive of my changes?

• Do I need to hire a professional like a fitness trainer, a personal chef, or a health and wellness coach?

• Is there one friend or family member who can be an exercise buddy or who might want to go gluten free?

Answering these questions and exploring the alternatives, will help you be successful at living the healthy life you want.

What some extra support? Book a free discovery session with me to find out how I can support your health and wellness journey.


  1. Judy on December 4, 2018 at 2:50 pm

    Well Michelle honestly reading this article hit the nail on the head for me. It is so true. We have great intentions and are gung ho then all the sudden can’t understand why we still are not as motivated after a week or so. But you listed a lot of reasons how that happens. An eye opener for sure. Just listing realizing friends who are not on same track and allowing yourself to get more involved with you community and connecting with people in same place you are in is huge for success. I remember when doing the blood sugar shift program the psychological part at the beginning of your program was extremely important when I look back. We all need support in changing habits and I realize it even more so being retired and home more often after losing my mom who I was a caregiver for. She played a huge part in my life. So life is totally different for me now. Thanks for your reminders in this article. Love your newsletters. They are always so inspiring!!!! ❤️

    • Michelle on December 4, 2018 at 6:47 pm

      Hi Judy. Thanks for reading and your comments. It has been a tough year for you. So much change and loss. When you look ahead to the New Year what are some things you think you can do to get reconnected to yourself, community and friends (old and new)?

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